From Stressed to Self-caring

I remember a time in my life when my main concern was what my grades were and who my friends were. Now a days, I can only wish to stress about such mediocre things. I get stressed so easily and its something I have really began to work on.

I recently quit my second job to begin working full time at my local coffee shop, which I’ve been at for six months now. It is such an adjustment to have so much free time which sounds odd but I am used to always being busy with two jobs and school. Now that I work one job and am enjoying my semester off I am befundled as to how to spend my time.

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I have signed up for a gym, which I actually really enjoy when I get myself out of bed to go! I have also began painting and writing a lot more (which if you’ve read my past posts, you’ll know that they are my main hobbies). I’ve also recently began to learn how to make my own soap which I would love to begin selling online along with my paintings.

With so many things to keep my mind occupied, I am interested to see how well I am alone. I’m the youngest of five; I moved out of my moms house right in with roommates, and I’m constantly with friends or at work surrounded with people. I don’t get a lot of time to myself and I think its something I have been longing for, but at the same time have been dreading.

I believe it is vital to having a healthy mindset and life style to take time to figure out who you are, what you like, and who you want to be. You have to spend time with yourself. Now don’t get me wrong, being with friends, family, and coworkers is very important as well. But sometimes I believe we forget to treat ourselves to some bonding time with ourselves.

I am one week into my journey of self care. I have began cooking for myself one or even two meals a day (breakfast and dinner). I’ve found that somehow despite my many efforts to avoid the kitchen as a child, my parents culinary school backgrounds have rubbed off on me. I am very proud of myself. I have also began waking up sooner and going to bed earlier, which is nice because I have much more energy throughout my whole day when I don’t sleep in til noon! Its nice to wake up, make myself a latte, go for a run, and come back to a homemade breakfast made by myself.

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Basically what I’m saying here is that the past 6 days of self care and my many efforts of staying a well balanced human being, has made me feel less anxious, stressed, and even just happier in general. I wish more people would focus on themselves more!

People constantly tell us not to be selfish and though this is true, you have to be a little selfish. We each have dreams, goals, and ideas we should pursue and that means being a little selfish. If you want to get where you hope to be you need to just cut out the negativity from your life and do it! It doesn’t take a strong willed person and you don’t have to be super (wo)man to make your big goal happen. It takes time and baby goals, but each and every one of us can do it!


Beki

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A Letter of Gratitude

Sometimes I don’t feel like I’m as positive as I should be. I have been working so much lately, I’ve been forgetting to remember what I am working towards. Since I have recently converted from working two jobs and seventy hours a week to working one full time job at the coffee shop, I am excited to begin focusing on myself, my family, and my friends.

A year ago today I moved out of my parents house. It was scary but exciting. I don’t ever regret it. I am constantly lectured about how much time I had to “milk.” I didn’t want to milk my time at my moms house and I don’t want to milk my youth. I want to experience life and I believe an important part of that is supporting myself and starting from the ground up. Yes it would have been easier to stay there and just help pay for groceries, but I don’t find it quite as rewarding.

There is so much in my life that I say I would like to do, and I never reach for it. I just talk myself out of the ideas. Some simple, some not at all: I am tired of milking this time. I just want to thank everyone who has helped me throughout each and every long day. The few, the awesome!

xoxo, Beki

3 Ways My Hobbies Help Me Through The Day

Before I explain why my hobbies continue to encourage me from day-to-day I should explain what they are.

I have been writing since I was in the Fourth Grade when my P.E. teacher encouraged me to join her enrichment club “Basketball Poets.” You had to write a poem to join and then continue to go to meetings and brainstorm/write for 15 minutes, then play basketball for 15 minutes. We would perform poems made famous by various poets and authors at PTA meetings or wherever. It seems so simple but that is the earliest I remember being encouraged to create something and be proud of it. Ever since then I have written poems and short stories, and now I am working on my novel (which is the most exciting thing I’ve ever began).

As well as writing, I paint. Now I have not always painted. This hobby bloomed from my hatred of math in high school. I remember constantly sitting through Ms.Cook’s class and not being able to keep my eyes open through the dragging lessons on point and slope. The only way to stay awake so I didn’t fail was to doodle. It all started with this cartoon character I created that looked a lot like a piece of broccoli skateboarding. Then one day, my senior year my civic teacher looked at my notes that were filled with all different doodles and pointed to a catfish and said “You should paint that.” and so it began…

Now finally my most obvious hobby, photography. I have been so blessed with a mother to teach me how to use film and go on adventures in Florida with to just take pictures and explore. Most recently I have began to get more serious about shooting and I can’t wait to learn all that I can!

Okay so down to the nitty-gritty, the reason you’re reading this.

1. Stress Reliever

I am a very over excited person. Whether something is good or bad, I react almost theatrically. I do get stressed out very easily over money, school, relationships, and basically everything you could think of. I am aware of this and I’m working on it. I have noticed the best way for me to work on this is everyday I take at least an hour to do one activity. I use this time for a sort of therapy, which may make me sound crazy but there is absolutely nothing better for your health (or sanity) than making time for your own self-care.

2. Member of the Community

I have always volunteered for different activities going on in my community but it was always for honor society or my church, but those days are over now and I didn’t think much of it. Then one day I was asked by a local farmers market to paint their sign and work their grand re-opening. That’s when I realized how much I loved working with people though school and church in high school, and now I could do it myself while doing the things I loved. It makes you proud of your work.

3. Creativity Encourages New Ideas

This world is full of people telling you not to major in an art industry because you won’t make any money. Creative minds are stifled by the business world and alternative thinkers lack the skills to work in an actual career. I DISAGREE 100%. In high school I took several different marketing and business classes. You know the number one thing employers in marketing look for? Creativity.

I’ve noticed that just an hour a day gets the “juices” flowing. I am more open-minded and I have more ideas constantly. I notice things around me that I would have never noticed before. I think of story ideas when I’m just going to the bathroom. I can’t leave my house without my camera because I could spot something beautiful I may never see again. New colors pop out to me that I want to come home and create. My hobbies encourage me and make me excited about every aspect of life.

So, Whats Your Hobby?!

Summertime is for relaxin’

Due to working two full time jobs in a tourist town that thrives on summer vacationers it is very hard for me to find some “me time.” But I am lucky to have a couple mornings a week to just workout, listen to music, and write or draw or whatever else I please. I am really working on relaxing and not getting stressed out so easily! But it is time to tackle this night of waitressing to (finally) complete this crazy fourth of July weekend.


Beki

A Fresh Start

So I’m back on here with a brand new page and a lot more to talk about that poetry, like I did 1-2 years ago! I have just completed my first year of college and while I’m at an absolute loss for what direction I am going in with my life, I have decided to take a semester off to work, travel, and discover what I really want to do with my life. I will post daily (or more than daily) about my adventures and the lessons I learn!

Sincerely,
A very excited girl.

Red, white, and grateful.

Its the fourth of july: a holiday full of patriotism, baseball, and hot dogs! I believe that the reason for most holidays is to remind us of the things we are most grateful for. Though America has a long way to go towards being a absolutely free and non-judgemental nation, I am very proud of every thing we have accomplished this year. And I am very excited to remain active in the fight for equal rights and to see what else is to come, but for today I will enjoy time with family and friends. Its a beautiful day and for that I’m grateful.                                                                          Happy Fourth, Beki.